It’s been several days since my visit with my friend.
I’ve tried to call her once and I’ve texted her every day (with the exception of yesterday) to tell her I hope she is feeling better.
I landed in Chicago a few hours ago and Julie suggested I reach out to her again. Instead of giving her a “pep talk” remind her that I’m here for her and tell her that I feel like I’ve hurt her in some way.
At first I was reluctant. The last thing C (we will call her that instead of “my friend”) needs is for someone else to make demands on her, emotionally.
However, Julie is brilliant and has a way of reaching people.
I sent C a text this morning.
“I’m not sure what I did or said to cause you to feel you need to shut me out, but I’m sure you have your reasons. I just want you to know that you are on my mind and I’m always going to be here for you.”
That was about 6 hours ago and I haven’t heard back.
She’s been posting pictures of her deceased partner on FB these past several days. I spoke to a mutual friend who is afraid that C is about to hit a wall.
I’m not sure what to do but for now, I will wait. I will let my friend have her space and time and hopefully she will know that I am here if she needs a broad set of shoulders.